Turning conflict into empathy on engineering teams

Module 3 : Tackling difficult conversations

LeadDev Together: Pillars of engineering management

Module 1: Developing your team
Module 2: Building culture
Module 3: Tackling difficult conversations
- Creating the foundation for difficult conversations
- Communicating change: leading through the change curve
- Turning conflict into empathy on engineering teams
Module 4: Remedying underperformance
Module 5: Managing up and influencing
Module 6: Personal development

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