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Turning conflict into empathy on engineering teams

Module 3 : Tackling difficult conversations

LeadDev Together: Pillars of engineering management
  • Information for group leaders:

  • Course Induction:

  • Module 1: Developing your team

  • Module 2: Building culture

  • Module 3: Tackling difficult conversations

    • Creating the foundation for difficult conversations
    • Communicating change: leading through the change curve
    • Turning conflict into empathy on engineering teams
  • Module 4: Remedying underperformance

  • Module 5: Managing up and influencing

  • Module 6: Personal development

Posted: 12 May 2021

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